Everyone has value. Unfortunately, it’s not apparent to most people what their value is. I bring this up because I’m in another transitional phase. It’s part of the startup life. Whenever this happens, I second-guess myself and slide into a mini-crisis. But fortunately for me, I have a support network that doesn’t let me slide very far.
I had a chat with a friend the other night and he reminded me the value I bring to companies. It’s hard to realize your value when you’re down or when you dismiss your value (more on that). But sometimes you have to step back and re-assess from 10,000 feet (or better yet, have a friend give you an outside analysis). Taking stock in what your value is will help you re-establish your confidence and find the right fit for your skill set.
Far too often we overlook the good and focus on the bad. It happens to everyone. It’s easy to focus on what you don’t have and not on what you do have. I do this all the time. But when you’re feeling down and think you don’t have value, remind yourself what you do have. Everyone has something to offer.
You have value. I’d venture a guess that deep down you know what your value is. But when your skills don’t fit well with a company’s needs, it’s hard not to feel like you don’t have value. Rejection is hard, even for those that have been rejected a million times.
Do you quit dating after one bad date? Does a bad date mean that you’re broken and you have nothing to offer someone in a relationship? No, it just means it wasn’t a fit. Eventually you’ll find your fit and your value will come pouring out.
Keeping a positive attitude can be tough when you’ve been kicked. But the sun is going to come up tomorrow no matter what. Can’t change that. Might as well get up and show the world your value.