Is This As Good As It Gets?

Posted in Life on April 9th, 2009

Every stage of my life thus far has been a learning experience. I am constantly trying to figure out who I am, what I’m good at, what I like and don’t like. In the first quarter century of everyone’s lives, stages are pretty much divided by the same significant milestones (that was a major stereotype). You go from elementary school, to middle and high school, possibly college, then graduate school or the work force. Towards the end, some people might skip a step or two, but for the most part we all have at least four of those experiences. We know during these times, we are to learn, feel uneasy about ourselves, and figure things out. That what the first 25 years of my life seem to have been…just trying to figure it all out. My question to BoumanBlog readers is this: Do we ever figure it out?

What do you think? Should I relax my constant worries/struggles with trying to figure out who I am and what my purpose is because it’s never going to happen? Or do I keep up with my constant self reflection and criticism because I will eventually figure it all out and live a much more grand life? Does this get easier? I don’t have anymore of those time specific dates left in my life (that I can think of right now). There is no magic age for marriage. No time specific date for your first child. Do you have 2,3, or 4 children? Death is certain, but when it occurs is not. When will I stop feeling lost and that I am in the learning phase of my life? Or is this the feeling I get to look forward to for the rest of my life? Overwhelmed, uneasy, confused, and frustrated? Please tell me this a phase in life. If it’s not, pass me the bottle.

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  • http://foodforthemoon.com Jocelyn

    I don’t know if I’m really qualified to answer this seeing as we’re the same age, but I’ve come across a lot of good knowledge and advice recently, and I thought I would share. Life is whatever you want to make of it. Some people will constantly be in the learning phase, some will stop eventually and shut that part of themselves off.

    The thing that people forget the most is that they are the ones making the decisions. If you are in a constant state of learning and not enjoying it, then that’s all you. If you are in a constant state of learning but are loving it, again, that’s all you. Feeling frustrated? Constantly comparing yourself to others and disliking yourself? Once again, all you.

    That’s not to say that it’s all your fault, because sometimes, we just forget that we’re the ones deciding our own fates. My take on answering your question, whatever you decide to do, enjoy it. Whether you decide you’ve figured it out or not (some people decide they have figured it out, and others decide they never will), just enjoy it and love what you’ve got. And if you can’t enjoy/love it, then change it so that you can enjoy/love it.

    On a less philosophical note, when do I get to go see your new place and the beach? Housewarming party? At any rate, I’m itching to bike ride on the beach soon, so more reason to visit your beach town :)

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    Steve Pavlina? Is that you? Thanks for the words of wisdom, I will take them to heart. Planning a housewarming party is impossible with my roommates (I can say this because I know they don’t read this blog. Meagan? Valerie? You here? Nope.) Let’s just find a sunny day for you and Rene to come down and chill at the beach.